A mix of primaries

The very reason this blog came into existence is because apart from dinner table debates, we needed a place to constructively and calmly put forward our wide spread opinions on everything under the sun… And wide spread they are…cause we are a bunch of people who differ in every aspect you can think of..Boys, girls, old, not-so-old, engineers, scientists, north-south… And most debates are heated too..cause unfortunately/fortunately each one of us is as strong headed as the next and always ‘assumes’ his/her point is the one that makes absolute sense… now most times, this is actually exciting..Keeps us alive and keeps life enjoyable…as long as v know that at d end of d day, v are sharing these views with people v share lives with.. d opinions tht differ r opinions of people v come home to everyday… ppl v actually look fwd to meet…

I’m still suffering from d aftermath of d debate/discussion/argument tht I was at the crux of last nite… What started as a friendly debate on an existing blog entry turned into a discussion I was dreading and had tried my best to keep away from, for a long time..Precisely because d other person primarily involved in this discussion was d last person I wanted to have an argument with…d last person I wud want to defy… Also, because a debate between two ppl who have equally bad tempers is never pretty… But this discussion also involved all d other members of d ‘club’.. Some who though interested in knowing d story behind it all, kept running to d bedroom intermittently..Even tho at times it was to keep a runnin commentary on this blog…lol! And for the first time with respect to d topic in discussion, much to our pleasure, Baba Bhya Swamy gave his vishesh tippanis no matter from which side of the debate..

Strong views, right or wrong, understood or not, are always going to remain… the only thing I stick by in d entire thing is my conviction…N I urge everyone.. n ppl kno whn I refer to thm here…To stick by wht u believe in…n who u believe in…n I believe in this bunch of ppl rite here… to kno thy will always ‘stand-by’ me…tht v will always stand by each other…n once again..not to take dis in d literal sense of d word… difference in views, difference is support, difference in actions..will exist….shud exist…. But wht exists beyond all this is d fact tht v will always remain one family..one blog…. Each is a primary here, but v complement each other… in a way tht is shown to me each passing day…

In a place where relationships have been broken, friendships have been ruined; love and faith have been reciprocated with mistrust and hate, it still warms my heart to know tht each day I drive home to a bunch of ppl who are above and beyond this… who will tell u: dude, u screwed up… but will never wash u off the palette…

Need of the hour…RTPJ enhancers

http://www.ted.com/talks/rebecca_saxe_how_brains_make_moral_judgments.html

Individual Perspectives

Its been a hell of an evening which is continuing into the night. Have you ever been in a discussion where there are two headstrong people on the opposite sides. Man it is actually really a spectacle. Neither wants to buckle down. There are inputs non stop from both sides some which make sense some which totally dont.

It started off as a debate and in the end it turned out to be so personal. Each party had their points and each tried to have an upper hand on the discussion. There were some humor filled moments as well but in the end it was all about love. How would one define love? Everybody  has his or her own perception for the word and I would do injustice to all if I try to give my definition here and leave out some of the most important aspects to others.

I was a silent audience of this discussion and was awed by the way that each individual can think on a word that I thought had a very simple meaning. Just thinking about the discussion I recall that each one agreed to the other on various aspects but still there was no indication of a truce. I cant say what exactly each meant but in the end the only two burning questions that were left in my mind were

1. Why just why would the person holding the ‘highest post ‘ be turned down?
2. Pyar mein hone ke bawajood ek admi aur kya kya plans ‘ruchta’ hai?

I really dont want to bore u anymore and I have a wonderful discussion at hand which I would not want to miss. Even though my perspective is similar to one of them but I would still like to hear the other part which really needs to be examined by the speaker as well.

Making someone perfect ?

What do u look in a companion? First of all how one makes a companion? I believe one can find a true companion by knowing his/her qualities, nature, interests, passions, ambitions and how are they aligned to oneself. If it matches then you are all set to settle with the person who closely resembles u, who is interested in u, who cares for u, who will stand by u thru thick and thin. So what is the definition of a perfect partner? Is it required? U go on looking for a perfect partner or even if u find a not so perfect partner u shudnt try and make him perfect… If u love him/her u wudnt force ur definition of perfection and be in an “unsatisfied” mode expecting the person to reach “ur” level of perfection instead respect his underlying personality and let him as an individual shape himself to perfection. Practising this wud definitely ensure happiness all around without any pool of expectations and diving evrytime to match those strokes of expectations.

Also, how this definition of perfection is shaped ? It’s merely shaped by peer pressure and want of a partner who is cool in the eyes of friends, family & society and not himself/herself. Imagining and comparing your partner to an ideal individual adds to the pool of expectations. You love a person for wat he/ she is and not trying to create perfection and unknowingly treating the person as an ornament which shud enhance ur beauty everytime u r out with it an which keeps on getting better and better……so open ur eyes and mind. And if u wanna live happy with ur partner accept him bcoz that is how u have selected him and not selecting raw material and converting it into a finished good….

Star light, star bright, the first star I see tonight, I wish I may, I wish I might have the wish I wish tonight…

In a week’s time we will be in the world of Disneyland. I can’t help but wish for fantastic things to come our way during our Florida stay. Here is my wishlist, I invite people to add their own to it.

Get a free upgrade to a suite with 2 bathrooms

Get a hot guy instead of hot girl as a tour guide

Party like crazy one of the nights

Watch Bhya swamy get sloshed and do ganapati dance (This is another secret about Bhya swamy that many ppl don’t know yet. He is an awesome dancer. He is a Kohinoor dancer waiting to be discovered)

Watch Mr. Armstrong and Khan saab join in the ganapati dance

Figure out Khan saab’s secret

Expanding this wish list…

Partying MORE than one night!!

I vote for the Bhya Swamy dance…

Shopping from every part of the world….u know what I mean…!

Get a hot guy..not necessarily as a tour guide..:D wht say girls..??

Cruise down Key west and not get a ticket…:P

Let my hair loose, do what I wish, as I wish..

And to find Khan’s secret…:D

I just wish for one thing and it is that nobody gets to know anything about my secrets

The true story….

Aaah…The concept of the perfect man..or the perfect version of a story or just perfection!! Unfortunately, the men in our life at this point, and girls are free to disagree here, fail to understand the most mundane of concepts. There is no perfect man hence nothing known as the hunt for one. And no one that I know of or am remotely related to is looking to find anyone who fits the bill of ‘the man’ in her life. Any episode that mite, again mite seem like a quest for someone is in fact only a ploy to satisfy and temporarily quench a parents thirst to meet their childs’ future partner. And there is no perfect version of a story…only the version you want to believe. Ultimately, someone mite come and scream the truth in your face but you will still believe only what your brain wants you to believe, no matter how off-mark it is…Doodh ka doodh aur paani ka paani to hoga…. But everyone has their own version of doodh and paani…No one believes in the standardized version… And as a couple of us like a little extra salt in their food, all of us like to add the little extra salt in stories floating around…

So, when someone says ‘I told a guy who asked for my number to back-off’ and you hear, ’she was interested in him and wont tell us’… u’re now probably missing words when people say them, the way some people miss them when they talk.. AAH and the pain!! the ouch feeling you feel, when you think your roommates think you’re making up stories and hiding your true feelings… Also, the hilarity of the situation, when they think you might actually be interested in a random person from a  random place whom you have never met is beyond description. Even if it is what countless Indian girls since time immemorial may have been doing. I’m still laughin in my head just thinking about it! To me, a tad frank and independent person and a lot more than that according to a few people, I would run a mile from this process, cause I believe in ruining my own life and not letting anyone else do it.

But the fact is, any of these situations, as annoying at times as they may seem have a valuable contribution in my life and in the life of people who contribute to this page. Entertainment! And one more topic to write about…:D That is it! Beyond that, it is what i call..Boohaaaki!

And to answer the serious questions of how girls find the perfect man….they dont….They find a man and to them he is perfect…And yes, no one here is talking of molding him to our ways..Accepting a person’s imperfections is what makes it perfect…And that perfection is most times, seen just by them and missed by most…. But who cares as long as we have our definition of perfection… Each Bella does find her Edward, though he may be Jacob to the world!

Finding Mr. Perfect!

A girl in India when completes her education and begins to earn is seen as someone who needs to be married off and sent to her new home. People from all over the family bring “suitable or prospective” matches. And then starts the process of the girl meeting with the boy either in person or now a days virtually on the internet or chats and telephone. There are profiles created all over the web to invite “candidates”. A comprehensive and complete background check is made and therefore it is always good if the proposal comes through a family friend.

I was fortunate enough to witness this process twice and recently being just a few weeks ago where one of the “elite” housemates went through the screening process. As we would say in Hindi..saat samandar se paar ikh munda dhunda gaya tha..And our dear friend was so ever excited to hear his name that one mention of the guy and the lady became hyperactive..The process started with an email which shed light into the deep feelings that the lady had developed already for the man, and it graduated to regular telephone chats..It was as if the distance between east and west coast in a country like America had evaporated into thin air. However all this was always kept a secret from the rest of the members, who were always fooled with the same statement..”Uska chapter to kabka khatam ho gaya hai”.

Then comes a time when roommates like us just forget about everything and at that very moment some hotshot people are called in to give lectures and presentations. And it so happens that during one of those presentations people are asked out by a so called “dude”. Now comes the problem, what should the roommates be told? A new story needs to be cooked up to fool these stupid unknowing people. Aha… that’s it..I met this guy today who was not at all a dude who comes up and asks if I am single, when I answer in the positive , he asks for my number and at which point I say I am not interested as my mom is someone who will be looking into such issues..And there is the splendid cover to fool my ever trusting roommates..

Now the point arises how does one come upto selecting “the right guy”..Well this question is and can be answered by girls only, who are the sole force able to break the complex riddle and come up with an answer. I am sure that even though my roommate ‘is not the brightest of the lot ‘ she will somehow or the other come up with a solution the same way she comes up with unstoppable chitter chatter she has.

Change is inevitable…welcome it!

Hello ppls,

After a lazy but a “fun” filled weekend, just bored with the thought of getting into the routine of the week. So thought of writing and making a debut in the blog. This is the first weekend after entering Big B’s house that I got some time to think and enjoy with ppl in the house. I recall the days of confusion and no of permutations and combinations we had gone through for “shifting”. But Bhya Swami and kalam wali bai came up with a brilliant idea of  getting “mast” and “fun” filled GG’s in their house and making it paawan with our kadam

The idea was definitely brilliant but Grl’s grp(GG’s) were were not very open and convinced with the idea of leaving their apartment which was “HOME” to them for 2 yrs. After all its human nature to not welcome “changes” be it good or bad. Oh those days! Thinking about the whole transition phase and no of thoughts and emotions that crossed our minds. To name a few we were scared as well as excited to enter a new house but with no other than our own Byz grp(BG’s). And ofcourse the thought of shifting our, actually Big sisters “extravagant stuff”…of which we got rid of a lot of stuff.

But the “change” worked out beautifully which was ofcourse not possible without BG’s help. And here we are spending wonderful and memorable moments be it fights, debates, arguements, movie time or dinner table conversations. Playing word games with Mr Khan, embarrasing Bhya Swami by dancing on songs like Kajra re and Sajjanaji vari vari or agitiating Mr Armstrong during dinner table debates…discovered new ways and means of enjoying life !!

Lets keep the spirit high forever!

Cheers!

भ्या स्वामी उवाच…

Like him or hate him, you can’t ignore Aaj ‘Thok’re… Just like his much controversial uncle , he manages to generate strong opinions… And how could we not fall for it… I can’t afford to be his advocate in the BB’s house simply because my philosophy is based on ” Jaan hai toh Jahaan hai” or “Sir salamat to pagdi pachaas” and the fact that I am sharing a room with a North Indian. Just a few points I would stress (with no intention whatsoever of criticizing our compatriots from the North):
1. The so called ’sons-of-the-soil’ is not a Mumbai (/Bombay/Bab-Bhai(yya)whatever you prefer ) concept but its getting all the more relevant globally in the era of globalization. It is something that needs to be addressed at a global level.
2. Changing a name of the city may sound stupid to the well-educated, well-settled youth of the global citizenry but it has a great cultural significance. Just FYI, New Amsterdam was renamed after the English conquered it from the Dutch. And today the whole world calls it by the new name ” New York City”.
3. Collapsing infrastructure of Mumbai is a well-established fact now and it can not be fixed unless the increasing burden is somehow stopped.
4. Language is perhaps the most widely debated topic in all this controversy. And there is a fundamental reason behind it. A language represents a region more than anything else (be it a person/monument/tourist attraction). That is why many of the countries (or states in India) derive their name from the language of the masses (e.g. England, Germany, Saudi Arabia, Gujarat, Andhra Pradesh, Tamilnadu). It is completely fair on the part of non-Marathi speaking speakers in Maharashtra to feel annoyed when forced to speak in Marathi. Forcing a language on somebody is curbing his way of thinking and I agree that this can not be done. But at the same time, no one would disagree that the lingua franca of a region should be one which is spoken by the majority of the region. There is an interesting story about how the English parliament took steps to overcome the growing influence of French and Latin in the society. And today it is the global language. So what is wrong when somebody wants to promote the language of the state. I am in  no way supporting the violent means used by the Sainiks.
5. About the SBI recruitment: SBI conducts recruitment drives in the states where the vacancies exist. And those jobs should go to people from the state. So they demanded that it should be ensured that outsiders do not appear for the recruitment exam and preference should be given to people with Maharashtra domicile. The english news papers twisted it saying that MNS demands the jobs should go to ‘Marathis’.
6. Lesser said about Abu Aazmi (who was in jail for being involved in 1992 blasts), the better it is.

I rest my case here.

Attitude and approach..the MM story (Varta!)…

After much debate on what to watch over dinner..Paranormal activity or Raaz..and the failure to get videos for any  online led to a very interesting, healthy discussion at the table.. From strongly put forward views of Mr. Armstrong to the politically correct and diplomatic opinions of Kalamvali bai..to the loud points of the Big sister and quiet views of Rani Laxmibai to the factually accurate inputs of Bhya Swamy, the discussions touched various aspects of what is going back home..There also evolved the idea of the Bhya party which hopefully will come into being one day to actually enable us to act on our desire to serve and better the place we belong to…the place that calls us sons-of-the-soil! I now open the floor for the debate…bring on your views…Bombay or Mumbai?